the great white dilemma

I don’t know why I keep on engaging with people on Twitter, but I do.

This time, it was a tweet about how white people are too scared to say they don’t care about black lives matter.

…at first, I was like, scared where? It’s all over Twitter, and then I remembered that Twitter is hardly indicative of real life. We’re all sharing stories on Twitter and they’re getting thousands of likes and retweets, but there are millions of people around us offline who probably feel how the tweeter does.

According to them, ‘a lot of people feel this way’.

GOOD!

Chances are the vast majority don’t give a shit. They’re out and about pretending to be nice. Overcompensating. Telling us how great we are. Stroking our egos.

Newsflash – it’s usually obvious within a conversation. Some white people will do their best to bring up race somehow and either double down on how much they love something (usually, our hair) or make a questionable comment and qualify it by saying that another imaginary black person thought it was okay/funny.

Or, they will use microaggressions –

brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioural, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative prejudicial slights and insults toward any group, particularly culturally marginalized groups.

Microaggressions will have you scratching your head. Just off the top off my head, I’ve been told that I look ‘softer’ and ‘more approachable’ with my natural hair, that black women in weaves look like they want to ‘fight’. Someone told a black woman I know that she looked like a drag queen (but that was okay because they LOVED drag queens).

It’s always very obvious when someone has a problem.

They don’t like us and they don’t care. WE BEEN KNEW! They’re not fooling anyone – they might as well live their truth.

All black people are asking for is equality. Not to be liked.  White people don’t even need to care. They just need to deal. We’re here, we’re not going anywhere and one day, we will be treated with the fairness and respect we deserve.

In a way, being too scared not to say something is kind of privileged in itself, right? They’re only scared because it’ll make them look like selfish, racist people (which, I guess some of them are?).

In terms of things to be scared of – that’s a pretty good break.

The R Word

I’m not going to spend a long time talking about this, but I ventured into the #racism tag on here and surprisingly, it was full of all kinds of crazy opinions. 

The hot topic seemed to be comments said by a Cambridge University student on Friday/Saturday, during a ‘riot’ that took place in East London. 

The Cambridge University student who praised rioters who threw petrol bombs at police and claimed “all white people are racist” has defended his comments.

Jason Okundaye, 20, head of the Black and Minority Ethnic society at the university, came under fire on Saturday after posting a string of posts on Twitter.

His remarks followed violent protests in Hackney, east London, on Friday night (July 28) over the death of Rashan Charles following a struggle with police.But commenting on his social media posts, Okundaye said: “My tweet about all white people being racist was pulled out of context and separate to my tweets in support of the Dalston protests.

“My tweets on white racism had been said before, in response to people acting as if racism is exclusive to working class people.

“I stated that regardless of sexuality, class, gender or age, all white people are racist i.e. not just one type of white person.”

And the reference to ‘geddit’ refers to my previous tweets on how all demographics of whiteness can and should be called out for their racism and how it specifically manifests in their groups e.g. white middle-class people refusing to hire Black people killed, or white gay men stating ‘no blacks, no asians’ on dating apps such as Grindr.

So basically, this student called all white people racist. 

Apparently that’s racist. 

He also said that all white people could ‘geddit’. 

Apparently that’s inciting violence. 

Unfortunately there are some people who think black people are afforded special treatment these days. They think equal opportunity is some sort of ploy to steal everything they have. It isn’t. Some of them even think that they’re a minority now. They’re not. They’re really not. 
What really pisses me off is the people that hear the word ‘racist’ and instead of taking a breath and calming down, they proceed to show you just how racist they truly are. Some of y’all would make shitty lawyers.

In my opinion, what this student said wasn’t racist. I don’t know how calling white people racist is racist. I can’t follow that logic. Either it’s true or false. What is racist is the people on Twitter calling black people ‘sub human’ and ‘ferals’. Or the people who say we should go back to Africa.

The difference is that I see that nonsense everyday, be it on comment sections, Twitter, wherever and it’s disgusting, but I can’t really do anything about it. I reported those tweets, but that won’t stop anything. 

Here, we have one admittedly inflammatory comment and now everyone is up in arms. Now they care about racism (but only so they can tell us how NOT racist they are, while being racist). 

They’re talking about expelling this student and prosecuting him for ‘inciting racial hatred’. That’s bullshit. I’ll admit that when I first read the news, my reaction was dude, what are you doing?? You can’t say that. Especially as a Cambridge student. Didn’t your parents tell you when to shut up! Also, hello, Cambridge!

When you’re black, you know that there will always be people ready to help you fail. You know that there are certain things you have to be careful about saying, especially around certain people. Forget context, you have to be mindful at all times. Perhaps Jason forgot himself and was so frustrated that he tweeted what he did. Maybe he was just fed up. We’ve all been at that point. I don’t think he deserves to lose his education over that. 

I find it highly ironic that an MP had this to say:

Just a few weeks ago, I was being told that a term used by one of his colleagues – ‘nigger in the woodpile’  – was just from back in the day and that outrage over the word was political correctness gone mad. 

Now… an opinion is ‘racial hatred’. Y’all need to make your mind up.

Or is it that certain people can say what they want and to hell with the rest of us? 

Let me know.

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Maybe it’s time to let white people say the ‘N-word’*

This was in the news here yesterday. 

Conservative MP Anne Marie Morris has been suspended from the Conservative party after she was taped using the phrase “n****** in a woodpile” in a discussion about Brexit.

These days whenever I hear that [insert white person with some kind of public role] has said the word nigger (at this point, why bother using asterisks?), I always chuckle to myself. 

Not because it’s funny but because we [black people] know that white people say it behind closed doors. We know that white people won’t be happy until they can say the word whenever they want without any repercussions. Slavery wasn’t enough. The Jim Crow era wasn’t enough. They want to take the word back. 

You guys can have it. Seriously. Say it all you want, and if there’s some blow back, know that you knew what you were signing up for. Maybe we can brand the letter R on the hands of all the white people who want to say it. 

People are saying that nigger in a woodpile is an old fashioned term and that it’s inoffensive. Yeah, now (and that’s HIGHLY debatable). Back then it obviously had a wider connotation. Either way, it’s still a phrase that needs to be left behind. However, if you’d like to say it, I have my R brand ready for you. 

Anyway, my tongue in cheek suggestion aside, there’s been the usual response. 

  • Why are these people so offended?

Excuse me? Who are these people that you’re referring to. Black people? Why are black people offended at the use of a historical term that was used to denigrate them? And that aside, I personally wasn’t. I can’t think that too many of us are. Unsurprised, that’s for sure. 

  • These people have come and taken our jobs. We should send them back to where they came from. 

LOL. Lazy response. Do better. 

  • Black people often use the ‘N’ word about themselves

    What’s your point? It’s been explained to the death why it is that some black people use the word. I used to take the Oprah stance on the word before I realised that black people have earned the right to take back the word if they please. I don’t look down on anyone that says it. Unless you’re not black. If you’re white you can’t say it. Simple. There’s no magic sparkle that happens when you say it. I promise you. 

    • PC in this country has gone so far we have disappeared up our own arse.

      This is always the default response people have when they’re told off for being offensive idiots. It’s not PC gone mad, it’s just that you’re still a dick. Deal with it. 

      • They call us names too

      Really…how many of ‘them’? And do they have the same historical connotation and racist background? No? I didn’t think so. 

      I can’t think of anything more tiring than debating whether or not white people can say nigger when the answer is glaringly obvious. 

      Stick to saying it behind closed doors. 

      Or maybe don’t say it all. 

      (*just to clarify – I’m being facetious.)